That's weird...

 

Just kidding! It's not weird at all. But don't worry, I've got you.

I'm here to tell you you can actually have the relationship you want in less time than it takes you to patch up a squabble.

 

How? 

 

By understanding the blocks that get in the way of you feeling and BEING completely yourself.

 

You already have everything it takes to experience the most fulfilling, sexually satisfied, uncompromisingly authentic relationship. EVEN IF YOU NEVER HAVE BEFORE.

 

But your golden ticket's either stuck to the sole of your Manolos or buried waaaay down in there.

 

I'm here to help you find it. And keep it.

 

Sound too simple?

Not quite.

 

Chances are, you've been educated to show only a slice of yourself to the people in your life (especially your partner!).

 

There's more to us than we dare to share.

 

And here's the scary part:

 

All the reasons you're given to hide the bulk of who you are seem to be right on the money!

 

"That's not nice."

"You're so selfish."

"Blank makes you weak/undesirable/unlovable/unfuckable/unacceptable"

"No one will stay with you if..."

"It's not good to..."

 

The way the world's set up confirms your fears of showing up fully ALL THE LIVELONG DAY.

 

So tell me, doctor...

 

If you don't feel entitled to your full emotional range and physical experience (think joy, rage, PLEASURE, preferences, timing, etc) how the hell are you supposed to be fully YOU? 

 

How are you (and your partner!) supposed to be fulfilled if you're cut off from the larger portion of who and what you are?

 

It can't be done.

 

And that's where I come in.

  

As a Sex, Love and Relationship coach (best J.O.B. ever), I get a rare glimpse into couple's intimate lives.

 

It turns out, behind the shiny surface of vaycays in Baha, grins'n giggles, Arch Digest-worthy homes and killer instagram feeds, most folks are up against it.

 

"I love her but sex feels like a chore."

"It's just not how it used to be."

'I don't know who I am." 

"I feel like I don't know him anymore."

"I feel judged."

"If I say what I really feel, he'll be hurt/sad/disappointed/leave."

 

"Something's wrong but I don't know what."

"I feel guilty all the time"

"I'm always walking on eggshells."

"I only orgasm alone."

"We're like roommates."

 

 

Does any of this sound familiar?

 

Well, you're not alone. Far from it!

 

Do you feel icky  just admitting in your head that you have these thoughts? Join the club.

 

Having relationships that thrive (I mean really thrive) is an oxymoron considering what we've learned about how to be with each other.

 

That formula goes a little like this:

If (and only if) you do X, you'll get to keep this person you love.

But if you do Y? (enter direct lightning strike)

 

 So what does a thriving relationship look like? Glad you asked!

 

An abreviated list...

You're:

 

Curious and eager to explore your sexuality TOGETHER.

 

With each other because you actively choose to be (not because it's all you know/ are afraid of never finding another one)

 

Addressing struggles, not suppressing them.

 

Telling (and listening to) the truth without going into a tizzy.

 

Feeling gratitude IN YOUR BODY. (Not because it's right but because it's true)

 

Having clarity with your inner desires, thoughts, feelings and needs. Good, bad and ugly.

 

In cahoots to meet each other's needs in substantial and tangible ways.

 

Only saying  "yes" when you mean it.

 

Knowing this relationship makes you more of the person you want to be (and not a dulled-out version of you).

 

And that all of the above is safe and natural.

 

So... amazing sex, freedom, the space and energy to evolve as people and getting loved for ALL THAT YOU ARE.

 

Not too shabbs, right?

 

And it's totally doable!

 

But bummer of bummers, most couples hold their breath for years hoping things will improve on their own. And they don't.

 

Cause the human brain just doesn't work that way.

 

You see the more we repeat a pattern, the deeper the neural pathways that create it get. And eventually... it becomes a part of who we think we are.

 

So when you think you're doing nothing, you're actually doing this: 

 

More of the Same.

 

Which is great if you want predictability! (Cause baby, what you'll get is what you've been getting).

 

But not so hot if you're about that extraordinary love.

 

It's not just a relationship. It's YOUR LIFE. Believe me, you've got skin in this game.

 

What I've Got for You

 
Authenticity, Safety & Desire could also be called

Authenticity + Safety = Desire

 

Think about it.

 

Can you imagine feeling so safe with your partner that you can spill the beans about what you actually feel and want without being judged for being too emotional, angry, ambitious, vulnerable, or a cuckoo- bananas, pervert?

 

Come on! Fireworks! Desire-city!

 

"But I'm already fully authentic with my partner and it ain't like the 4th of July"  I hear you say.

 

Really though? Do you:

 

Actually feel enough space within your relationship to bring up and own your realest, deepest sexual desires?

 

Sense that you're 100% free to say exactly what you need, feel and want without fearing it'll nuke what you have?

 

Feel thrilled to hear what's true for them about your sex life, your level of connection and the state of the relationship?

 

Root for (rather than fear) them getting what they truly want and need?

 

And do they do that (I mean really) for you?

 

I see clients that start off with the "I'm already myself" spiel. And what that ends up meaning is they're already their tired, shut-down, tightrope-walking selves.

 

And hey... I've been-there-done-that.

 

I've worn myself to the bone and felt my body and mind go overcooked-spaghetti limp at the prospect of "fun", or sex, or even chit-chat. 

 

 

It can be 100%  true that we're feeling wilted, tired and tapped-out, and that... TADA, "that's what's authentic, yo!"

 

But lemme let you in on a little something...

 

The bulk of that exhaustion is coming from the insane amount of energy it takes to hold back the vastness of who you are/think/feel, and only show a sliver.

 

It's like trying to only breathe a tiny bit.

 

Try it for an hour, just breathe in 5% of what you usually do.

 

See? In theory it should be easier. In reality it's a ton of work.

 

When you cultivate the safety to be authentic, you intuitively know that your options have opened up.

 

This means space and likelihood that you'll get what you've always wanted (but set to one side), sexually, emotionally, and intellectually.

 

And this is when desire can't help but arise.

 

Your creativity, potential for pleasure, fascination for life, sense of adventure and pride, and confidence... You can only tap into these authentically.

 

No fakesies.

 

So let's cut to the chase.

 

 

 

 

 

 

This  4 week course is designed for those that won't settle for less than great, because guess what...

It's not just a relationship, it's your life.

And...

We can absolutely shift from stuck-ness to flow if we only wrap our heads around these two things:

 

1. What causes the breakdown.

2. How to tend to the cause at root level.

 

This course is a simple roadmap to do precisely that.

 

Many of us spend thousands of dollars and endless hours wrapped up in everything from sex techniques to law of attraction hooey to the seven circles of ascended masters (I bet that's a thing).

 

The overwhelming result?

 

Confusion! Not to mention the stinking sensation that there must be something really wrong with us that we're not walking on sunshine by now.

This course is the opposite of that. We're gonna get down and dirty with real life issues like:

 

Why you resist sex with your partner and what do about it.

How to listen to your partner's truth without feeling like the world is coming to an end.

What do you really want and need.

How to feel confident and safe in showing all of  yourself.

What's YOUR authentic sexuality like and how to make it happen in the sack.