Love is THE thing that makes life worth living, am I right?

For lots of us, it took kissing our fair share of toads to finally land someone to build a relationship or a life with. Clearly we were committed to making it happen.

But OH SO OFTEN that turns out to be the easy part.

And what starts off with fireworks, symphonies, and hot'n heavy chemistry, now just feels... heavy.

Conversations lose their spark.

You know both of you have way more going on beneath the surface, but sharing it feels impossible. Will they get mad? Find it boring? Ignore us? Misinterpret us?

Sex goes from something you can't get enough of to, (secretly of course) something you do to prove you still do it.

Maybe you try to get your groove back by spending more time together, going to a sex seminar, going to therapy, going on a vacation or just agreeing to communicate more, love more, listen more and make "an effort."

Maybe it works, often it doesn't.

Few things are more heart-wrenching than falling out of romantic love with the person you want to keep loving.

And if you're dealing with this right now, YOU'RE NOT ALONE.

My work grants me access to what actually goes on behind the curtain of long-term relationships, glossy instagram posts and the "everything's fine" line, and in case you were wondering, most folks are up against it.

Time and time again, I see people that love (or want to love) each other grow apart.

They might flip between telling themselves that everything's fine and the certainty that this CAN'T BE ALL THERE IS.

They might be feeling lonelier and more invisible than they ever did when they were single, even as they lie in bed together.

They might be walking on eggshells with each other, afraid of what would happen if they actually came clean and said what they were feeling and thinking.

People are suffering in silence, trying to avoid conflict and gradually becoming roommates at best, and adversaries at worse.

Some couples can only take it for so long and break up, others make this their new normal.

Making their partners wrong for not meeting their needs, or making their own needs wrong for existing, they brush their longing for authentic connection and love under the rug, and live lifetimes of tension and emotional/physical shutdown.

I don't care how long you can hold your breath underwater, that's no way to live.

So What do we do?

Is there a better way or are we doomed to fall back to the same patterns over and over again?

I'm happy to report that THERE IS A BETTER WAY and nope, you're not doomed.

After digging deep, I've found there's a common thread at the root of most relationship breakdowns and most people are looking for solutions in all the wrong places.

But not you. Not today.

So, what is the common thread?

An overwhelming fear of being and expressing AUTHENTICALLY.

I KNOW, I KNOW!  This sounds a little too simple, right? Well, bear with me...

Were you taught that...

-some behaviors/words/gestures get you what you want and others get you the boot?

-saying what you really feel/think/desire NOW, is a recipe for trouble?

-to keep love, you've gotta be (and stay) a certain way?

-"blank" makes you weak, undesirable, unlovable, unfuckable, or unacceptable?

Do you believe these things are true?

Are you sure?

Well, these, my friend, are the beliefs that keep your authenticity on lockdown. And they're also the core beliefs that KILL the love.

If we're afraid that being wholly ourselves will cost us something we value (ahem, the relationship), we just won't do it.

And here's the kicker: there's absolutely zero way of truly loving, desiring and connecting with ANYTHING that demands we hold back our true experience.

When we try to love and connect from that base, we feel unsafe, unseen and unloved because the message we're giving ourselves is:

"You're not welcome as you are."

HOW DOES THIS SOUND TO YOU?

What do you think would happen to your relationship and your LIFE, if you felt safe to be who you are from moment to moment?

What if you knew the one you're with was delighted to meet the real you and was equipped to do this with ease, grace and resilience?

What if you could give up the guessing game of what will make them love you and what will lose you their love and acceptance?

What if you could give up the role of people-pleaser or caretaker while loving and caring more than ever before?

What would it be like to make love and be made love to AS YOURSELF, without worrying that you're too much or not enough?

All of this and so much more is not only possible, but inevitable when we remove the blocks to our authenticity AND heal our aversion to the authenticity of our partners.

This course will show you how, and in the safest, gentlest, most effective way ever.

Why it's different... 

For the record, I love many of the approaches out there meant to improve the quality of intimacy and relationships.

It's so great to refine our techniques as lovers, connect to our inner feminine and masculine, heal and awaken our sexualities and all that jazz.

But after seeing my fair share of crashes, and experiencing a few myself, these approaches fall short as long as we still feel we have to hold back with our partners.

Holding back out of a lack of safety brings an element of performance to any dynamic, and sooner or later that becomes EXHAUSTING.

A lack of safety is the one and only reason we hold back.

In all my years of obsessively studying relational dynamics through books, trainings and in-person research, I haven't found much in the way of pointing out this conundrum, let alone how to resolve it.

This is why I created this course. I want you to have the love I know you can have.

ASD (Authenticity, Safety & Desire) works to naturally restore (or create) safety in the relationship so your authenticity has room to breathe, express and finally know love.

The approach is simple, profound, and rooted in good old common sense. I want to give you tools you can actually use.

If you're looking for more bells and whistles, ASD isn't the course for you. This is all about the foundation. My mission is to teach you how to be free TOGETHER.

And I guarantee, once we turn that right side up, everything will change.

Cause let's face it, it's not just a relationship. It's your life.

How you experience love DEFINES how you experience life, with your partner, children, family, friends, peers, and most importantly YOURSELF.

Love is quality. 

What's in it:

A year of coaching condensed into 4 weeks.

Yes it's a lot! But I’ll let you in on something: about 20% of efforts give us 80% of our results. 

This course goes right to the root cause of relationship breakdowns and nips it in the bud to save you your most precious resource: TIME!

ASD consists of 4 modules released over 4 weeks.

Each module has:

- 1 Core video lesson.

- A support video to coach you through the most common challenges.

- A Q&A video with in depth insight on frequently asked questions.

- An interactive worksheet so you can reflect and apply these principles to your own life.

- An audio guided meditation/practice to bring this knowledge into your physical experience.

And not just that.

As soon as you purchase your course you'll not only get access to Module 1, but also to The Desire Archive: a library of videos that speak directly about sex and desire AND to an insider-only reading list of the most transformational "can't put it down" page-turners from my personal collection (that I'll continue to update as time goes by).

Your Investment:

Broken down, your investment is $115 per week, not for a lifetime, decade or year, just 4 weeks!

This is a fraction of the cost of coaching with top practitioners, in a fraction of the time it usually takes to end up exactly where you started (only older and more tired).

Is ASD the end of the road?

Nope, it's the beginning!

When you have these tools built into your relationship, everything else (sex seminars, therapy, adventures, sexy dance classes, workshops, whatever the heck you do) will be elevated X 1,000,000.

Let's be honest. Is there anything more depressing than dishing out those dollars on efforts that fall short? I don't think so.

If you're tired of secretly feeling like you're polishing a turd, look no further. I've got you.